We’ve all had discussions where the subject involving unfaithfulness is being talked about and last week I was in this kind of debate with a good friend who was basically sharing with me that she had caught her man calling some adult sex numbers, and how she was indeed so frustrated that he was in fact using her own visa or mastercard to purchase the phone calls! “The only silver lining in all of this is that they were inexpensive phone sex chats” she eventually stated regarding those phonesex chats he had been savoring without telling her, as if he needed to be thanked for having had the good sense of finding cheap phone sex rather than more costly sex phone lines! I asked if that was the sole thing she was upset about, after all, if my own man was indeed sleaze-bag enjoying live one-to-one erotic chats with other girls, I believe I might have turned out to be raving mad with regards to the whole thing!
What with one on one phone sex conversations, to private shows, to who knows what, the world is all of a sudden a much smaller place when it comes to connect with people.
For many singles, adult phone is probably the easiest way to break the monotony of the single life. However what if you were in a relationship and you found out that your partner did more than think about it! He actually used it for himself. What would you do? Would you excuse him as my friend just did (she uncovered that her beloved spouse had been calling a sex phone chat line for some supplemental “pleasure”, as if this wasn’t enough he used her master card “yet” showed “signs of wisdom” in electing to waste her own money on Inexpensive Phone Sex deals!), or would his indiscretions be a deal breaker? I know how I would have reacted but here is what my friend told me when I asked her whether she had been angered by the whole thing!
“Not really, no. Surprisingly I wasn’t angry with him! What I mean to say that although I wasn’t really happy about him chatting other women over the phone, I was more upset because he had been using my money to pay for these calls. At the end of the day, I asked myself if his actions constituted some form of cheating on his part, and I have to admit that I didn’t think that it did. If you take into consideration the “trouble” we cause sometimes and the amount of banter we get up to with people we meet when we go on our ladies night, you know, the innuendos, and the gentle flirting, then I don’t what he did was any worse! In answer to your question, no I cannot say that I was angry!”
Her answer gave me food for thoughts. It was undoubtedly an opinion I had not been prepared for, yet I had to confess that there was some truth in it. After all, it is assumed that the women who pick those calls are not like the photographs they put on their web sites so it may very well be possible that it’s not the woman her man phoned with whom he was having phonesex with, but rather a dream, an actress who was playing a specific role play.
“I have seen my very own man viewing adult movie several times” I said to her, “and so I can understand where you’re coming from! I am not sure I would have the capacity to be so kind with my own partner. though..”
But before I could carry on, she gave me “the coup de grace” as they say.
“Here is the thing… After I made him feel guilty for using my credit card without my authorization, I suggested that next time he was going to call one those lines, he should be doing when I was there, listening in… After all, if he was having fun on the side, shouldn’t I be included?”
That “floored me”! Literally knocked me off my seat! This was my lovely, innocent child hood friend! The girl who still went bright red whenever she heard a joke of a more “earthy” nature. And there she was telling that the idea of having some sort of intimacy, be it by phone or virtual, with her husband and some other virtual person was not only intriguing, but she was looking forward to it!
“So… What transpired? Did you actually….?” I finally wanted to know.
“Indeed I did” was her answer. “And I know what you are going to ask next… YES! It was really nice!”